Why I has such a hard time getting thru this NY Times article? Isn't sex an entertaining and engaging subject?
Teaching Good Sex By LAURIE ABRAHAM, November 16, 2011
This is how it ends
“If you’re gonna have pizza with someone else, what do you have to do?” he continued. “You gotta talk about what you want. Even if you’re going to have the same pizza you always have, you say, ‘We getting the usual?’ Just a check in. And square, round, thick, thin, stuffed crust, pepperoni, stromboli, pineapple — none of those are wrong; variety in the pizza model doesn’t come with judgment,” Vernacchio hurried on. “So ideally when the pizza arrives, it smells good, looks good, it’s mouthwatering. Wouldn’t it be great if we had that kind of anticipation before sexual activity, if it stimulated all our senses, not just our genitals but this whole-body experience.” By this time, he was really moving fast; he’d had to cram his pizza metaphor into the last five minutes. “And what’s the goal of eating pizza? To be full, to be satisfied. That might be different for different people; it might be different for you on different occasions. Nobody’s like ‘You failed, you didn’t eat the whole pizza.’
and this is how it starts
“Grand slam,” called out a boy (who’d later tell me with disarming matter-of-factness that “the one thing Mr. V. talked about that made me feel really good was that penis size doesn’t matter”).
“Now, ‘grand slam’ has a bunch of different meanings,” replied Vernacchio, who has a master’s degree in human sexuality. “Some people say it’s an orgy, some people say grand slam is a one-night stand. Other stuff?”
“Grass,” a girl, a cheerleader, offered.
“If there’s grass on the field, play ball, right, right,” Vernacchio agreed, “which is interesting in this rather hair-phobic society where a lot of people are shaving their pubic hair — ”
“You know there’s grass, and then it got mowed, a landing strip,” one boy deadpanned, instigating a round of laughter. While these kids will sit poker-faced as Vernacchio expounds on quite graphic matters, class discussions are a spirited call and response, punctuated with guffaws, jokey patter and whispered asides, which Vernacchio tolerates, to a point.
Vernacchio explained that sex as baseball implies that it’s a game; that one party is the aggressor (almost always the boy), while the other is defending herself; that there is a strict order of play, and you can’t stop until you finish. “If you’re playing baseball,” he elaborated, “you can’t just say, ‘I’m really happy at second base.’ ”
OMG
Sunday, November 27, 2011
Fashion twit
Contemplating buying yet another maxi skirt.
My favourite so far
Golden Metallic Top & Long Wrap-Illusion Skirt
No one can bring together opposite design elements as harmoniously as Alber Elbaz. Mixing matte and metallic, structure and softness, this Lanvin look has everything you need to stay on-trend this season: a ladylike silhouette, dramatic draping, and a vintage vibe.
Are they out of their mind?
$2,590 bucks for some vintage vibe?
Should put a watch on it and see how it goes down tenfold.
My favourite so far
Golden Metallic Top & Long Wrap-Illusion Skirt
No one can bring together opposite design elements as harmoniously as Alber Elbaz. Mixing matte and metallic, structure and softness, this Lanvin look has everything you need to stay on-trend this season: a ladylike silhouette, dramatic draping, and a vintage vibe.
Are they out of their mind?
$2,590 bucks for some vintage vibe?
Should put a watch on it and see how it goes down tenfold.
Monday, November 21, 2011
How to pop your corn
Like popcorn and don't like the mess?
You can do it.
Wanna lose weight?
Remember:
- bought street/ movies popcorn is not good for you
- bought microwave popcorn in a bag is not good for you
- sugar and butter should be used in moderation.
Pretty good recipe for popping corn on stove top here (I omit the butter).
And there is an easier way: put a handful of kernels into a regular lunch brown bag along with a hint of fine salt. Roll the edge. Microwave for 2 - to 2 1/2 minutes. Do not add butter.
With homemade popcorn you get a low cost low calories product which will fill you up. Follow up with a glass of water or a large cup of tea to promote the passage of the fiber-rich meal through your digestive system. Use this meal as a substitute for one of your regular meals and don't snack between meals. Do it every other day for 10 days. You are likely to lose 5-10 pounds.
You can do it.
Wanna lose weight?
Popcorn is great for this purpose.
Remember:
- bought street/ movies popcorn is not good for you
- bought microwave popcorn in a bag is not good for you
- sugar and butter should be used in moderation.
Pretty good recipe for popping corn on stove top here (I omit the butter).
And there is an easier way: put a handful of kernels into a regular lunch brown bag along with a hint of fine salt. Roll the edge. Microwave for 2 - to 2 1/2 minutes. Do not add butter.
With homemade popcorn you get a low cost low calories product which will fill you up. Follow up with a glass of water or a large cup of tea to promote the passage of the fiber-rich meal through your digestive system. Use this meal as a substitute for one of your regular meals and don't snack between meals. Do it every other day for 10 days. You are likely to lose 5-10 pounds.
Fear 9.11
Palestinian/Kuwait refugee on-site professional hit unconscious - head against the wall - in the restroom at the client site in NYC on 9.11.2011 around lunch time. His badge stated his name "Mohammed Ata..." and though the name was different from the name of the infamous hijacker who crushed AA plane into WTC North tower, it was close enough to arouse ultimate hate on that day.
A Pakistani-American banker: "For a month and a half afterward , I shaved every day. I hate shaving and I do have a pretty thick beard, but I took no chances. I'm even ashamed to admit this -- no, actually, I'm not ashamed. I dressed as a 'Yankee'. I didn't wear my black leather jacket or black jeans or black shoes. I wore shorts, my vest, my baseball cap, because I just didn't want to stand out".
New Yorker, September 12, 2011. Oral history by Ian Parker.
Try to imagine paranoia of middle-eastern people or people who looked remotely Arab or middle-eastern in weeks after 9.11. And paranoia of people who looked at them back then.
And paranoia of people who board post-9.11 planes and sense, see or smell something suspicious. And middle-eastern people - are they completely relaxed and dressing in black leather the way they did before 9.11?
The primary purpose of terror act is to induce fear in individuals and society. In this sense the 9.11 was a success way beyond what happened on that day with a long-lasting effect even the masterminds of this event wouldn't have dared to foresee. 10 years later the acute sorrow has passed but we are still high on fear. Fear eats the soul.
A Pakistani-American banker: "For a month and a half afterward , I shaved every day. I hate shaving and I do have a pretty thick beard, but I took no chances. I'm even ashamed to admit this -- no, actually, I'm not ashamed. I dressed as a 'Yankee'. I didn't wear my black leather jacket or black jeans or black shoes. I wore shorts, my vest, my baseball cap, because I just didn't want to stand out".
New Yorker, September 12, 2011. Oral history by Ian Parker.
Try to imagine paranoia of middle-eastern people or people who looked remotely Arab or middle-eastern in weeks after 9.11. And paranoia of people who looked at them back then.
And paranoia of people who board post-9.11 planes and sense, see or smell something suspicious. And middle-eastern people - are they completely relaxed and dressing in black leather the way they did before 9.11?
The primary purpose of terror act is to induce fear in individuals and society. In this sense the 9.11 was a success way beyond what happened on that day with a long-lasting effect even the masterminds of this event wouldn't have dared to foresee. 10 years later the acute sorrow has passed but we are still high on fear. Fear eats the soul.
Thursday, November 17, 2011
Cascade 2/2
***
For Liana this was the third accident involving grey minivan. The second one was already fading from her memory but the first one, the morning rear-end was all of a sudden making her scared.
She turned around and followed a bypass road. She hoped to part her ways with grey minivan for good.
***
But no. Almost at the end of her ride she is passed by police cars and emergency with sirens on as she pulled her car to the side of the road. Close to the crossroad there was an ugly scene - grey minivan smashed into a truck, truck standing across the road, parts of minivan scattered around, driver of minivan sticking his papers out of the window as policeman leans down to him. Liane feels she is obliged to get out of the car and offer help to minvan driver, apparently still trapped in his car. She can't just leave the place of a accident. She understands they are connected now and these are the prompts she was getting all day.
***
The siren sounds somewhere near. What is weird the sound doesn't move any closer and doesn't go away. It stays in place and becomes more persistent.
O my! This is Benney's bus! Bus driver is beeping impatiently outside the house. Benny is back from school. She has to get out at once to receive him.
For Liana this was the third accident involving grey minivan. The second one was already fading from her memory but the first one, the morning rear-end was all of a sudden making her scared.
She turned around and followed a bypass road. She hoped to part her ways with grey minivan for good.
***
But no. Almost at the end of her ride she is passed by police cars and emergency with sirens on as she pulled her car to the side of the road. Close to the crossroad there was an ugly scene - grey minivan smashed into a truck, truck standing across the road, parts of minivan scattered around, driver of minivan sticking his papers out of the window as policeman leans down to him. Liane feels she is obliged to get out of the car and offer help to minvan driver, apparently still trapped in his car. She can't just leave the place of a accident. She understands they are connected now and these are the prompts she was getting all day.
***
The siren sounds somewhere near. What is weird the sound doesn't move any closer and doesn't go away. It stays in place and becomes more persistent.
O my! This is Benney's bus! Bus driver is beeping impatiently outside the house. Benny is back from school. She has to get out at once to receive him.
Tuesday, November 15, 2011
Cascade
Liana was pulling her car out of the underground garage at the hospital when she saw a grey Toyota sienna minivan parked in her line to parking attendant booth. The cars in line were pressed close to each other and moving at minuscule speed but this one was not moving at all. She pushed the breaks and hit the bumper of minivan. Next minute the driver returned to his minivan and drove towards the booth and onto the road without taking notice.
***
Liana drove off the highway and into the forestry country road when she saw the same grey minivan apparently being tended to by police - it hit a white Honda civic sedan. Apparently both drivers were safe and the cars suffered minor damage.
Liana reminded herself that she should check whether her own car was damaged in hospital parking lot accident.
To be continued.
***
Liana drove off the highway and into the forestry country road when she saw the same grey minivan apparently being tended to by police - it hit a white Honda civic sedan. Apparently both drivers were safe and the cars suffered minor damage.
Liana reminded herself that she should check whether her own car was damaged in hospital parking lot accident.
To be continued.
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