Random on gender and procreation

Awards for reproductive responsibility - perm contraception decisions such as vasectomy or tubal ligation:
golden snip award - if you never had children, silver - if this was an afterthought.

Benjam, 23, Helsinki - - what a guy!
More on fashion.

Bonus: Pick-up in Iceland

Iceland and pick-up (3): "One month into my Iceland stay I forgot what it was like to experience basic human warmth"

Iceland and pick-up (2)

The problem with ordering drinks in a bar is that the serving size is a joke. I estimate it's about half of the "official" serving size in the States...
To combat these problems, my drinking strategy was to knock back some scotch at home while pumping myself up to misogynistic rap music, then moving to beer once I arrived at the bar. 

***************************************** What I want you to understand is that  good chat is not valued by Iceland girls. They really don't care about your status back home, your vast experience, or your accomplished humor.


The paragraph below made my heart go out for the guy:

The night I went to see a Brazilian singer with a Russian girl about one month into my trip was eye opening. The Russian was chatty about life and travel while the Brazilian singer was charming, smiley and graceful. The fact that the Russian girl asked for my opinions almost blew my mind, because even Icelanders didn't give a fuck what I thought of their country. One month into my Iceland stay I forgot what it was like to experience basic human warmth. 

I believe this guy is sincere. He is not talking about many bangs with easy Icelandic girls he got in Iceland. In fact, he got two in two months. So much for apartment near the bar zone, smart afterparties pick-up line, and two months in the dark cold winter with not much of human touch.

Iceland and pick-up (2)

Iceland and pick-up (1)

Icelandic girls are extremely shy, boring and cold (I'd describe American girls as annoying, abrasive and cold).
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(1) The girls are poor conversationalists (2) they love to overdrink (3) they love no-strings-attached sex. ==> Next

Bonus: Twitter. 

Iceland and pick up

Reading "Bang Iceland" by Roosh V.
So far so good. This guide is meant for straight men. No advise whatsoever for straight girls. Or for not-so-straight people. Though Reykjavik is the famous capital for gay clubbing. You've been warned.

...cold rain or fat snow...brutal wind...Summer is better. The average high temperature rises to the 50s, and around the solstice you get to experience nearly twenty-four hours of sun per day
So, let's settle for the summer trip. College girls go away for summer but this is even better.

English is widely spoken,...so there is no need to bone up on your Icelandic (the girls won't even give you bonus points for saying a few words in their language)...free lessons http://www.icelandiconline.is  ====> Next

GÍSLI	Halló! Ég heiti Gísli. Hvað heitir þú?
KATE	Ég heiti Kate.

Phobias: fear of not being seen in a Dress, Sitophobia etc.

Fear of not being seen in a dress
I am a 40 something transgendered person.
I have been trans as long as i can remember.
I was married for 18 years to a very non understanding wife and had to try and keep my physical trans state hidden.
Anyway cut a long story short we broke up and i moved out.
Eventually got myselve my own place where i could be me.
Anyway, it got to the point now where i hate going out looking like a fella. I prefer my other side. I am very convincing as a girl and have no problemms passing in the public eye.


Sitophobia (fear of food)
My whole life i have always had this Sitophobia problem that i seem to of come to terms with but the people around me just cant, when i was 2 years old i had a traumatic event where i almost died and from this day i have never eaten or even thought of food like a normal human being should! I eat 1 meal a day which consists of 5 slices of bacon in a baguette, i have had this everyday for 16 years! Some food i cant have anywhere near my face and i know it wont hurt or kill me but im just so terrified and i dont know why!

Actually, I was not looking for phobias or anything weird of this sort. I was trying to find the name of this film where people are getting pleasurable sensations from something like paper balls, carp fish nibbling on ones feet in aquarium, etc.
Numerous lists of top weird films but no luck so far. Help!

Sperm donor horror stories

6 Terrifying Things Nobody Tells You About Donating Sperm Read more: 6 Terrifying Things Nobody Tells You About Donating Sperm (by Sean Berkley, 2011)

The Genius Factory:
My short, scary career as a sperm donor (by David Plotz, 2005)

Childfree hotels

Once I heard about these two hotels in CA which don't let people with children stay I asked myself how to find hotels with such rules any place I go.

I went to Expedia.com and looked for preferences. So these along with accessibility options are the most sought after features:

• High-speed Internet
• Air conditioning
• Swimming pool

• Business services
• Complimentary Airport Transportation
• Courtesy breakfast
• Courtesy newspaper
• Fitness equipment
• Free parking
• Hair dryer
• LGBT-Welcoming
• Pets allowed (conditions apply)
• Restaurant in hotel
• Room service
• Spa services on site  

No "Childfree" option in view. But there is LGBT-Welcoming option.
So I selected LGBT for hotels in California, Big Sur. Two hotels came up, one of them from the earlier post. So, Post Ranch Inn is LGBT-Welcoming and does not let in clients under 18. The other one caters to families and doesn't list any age restrictions. I tried the same trick on LA and vicinity hotels and found 20+ LGBT-Welcoming ones. A few I looked into in more detail do not let in clients under 21. So I say this is the way to work around the absence of "Childfree" option but LGBT-Welcoming per se is not a guarantee of childfree stay.

The roads we choose

This guy, let's call him Jonathan, he is married for 10 years. He is 44 years old. He lives with his wife and two boys, 8 and 6, in Boston suburbs. He loves his children, takes them for day trips and cherishes the idea of taking the whole family on hiking/canoeing/camping trips when the boys grow a little older.

He first met his wife while working at local client site and he was struck by her boyish grace and independence. After 10 years and 2 pregnancies Mariana became more feminine, her body more curvy. She had to stay at home after Peter was born because his developmental delay required a lot of attention and her salary didn't cover the expenses associated with the special childcare and special education on top of Early Intervention program. Peter is in kindergarten now, attending regular school as a student on IEP with inclusion as mandated by IDEA (individuals with disabilities education act), so she is thinking about going back to work. Meanwhile she is relying on him as a bread winner. Family interest for her goes ahead of passion. She had a brief fling with co-worker during off-site training. He was told about the affair in such a matter-of-factly way that he had to accept that it was brought up to his attention for closure and not for reassessment of relationship or any sort of conflict. He only had to wonder whether she knew that she was pregnant when she had this affair. She mentioned that she used condom and he trusted her.

Jonathan is a mellow guy with the need to please others. His mother (she was left a widow when Jonathan was 10) wanted him to grow up to be a real man. She never remarried but always put effort into finding male role models for her son, whether is was a wrestling coach on school team, biology teacher in high school or her three subsequent boyfriends who resembled her late husband but unfortunately didn't measure up. His mother is now retired and lives in California by herself, volunteering at homeless shelter and sharing a house with another lady. She visits a couple of times a year, while they visit in February for her birthday.

Freedom to smoke and pick up girls

I'm not going to review various electronic cigarettes.
I'm sold on BLU.

I was introduced to BLU e-sigs by a friend who works as a cardiac nurse at ICU. It's stressful and it's strictly non-smoking environment. She is a long time smoker. Had to either wait for a smoke till the end of the shift or risk her job sneaking to the hospital grounds in order to relieve her longing. BLU e-cigarettes came to the rescue.
She used them on her flight to Bangkok as well. So they definitely work for smokers who must spend extended periods of time in non-smoking environment.


People use e-cigarettes for smoking cessation - meaning they won't get actual smoke and ashes. They may stay on pure nicotine for months and years, get rid of smokers cough and feel better about their health in general since the intake of cancerogenous substances is minimised.

Now sold online, at Walgreen's pharmacies and at Cumberland farms stores. I order online using free shipping.
My preferred flavour is cherry. I like Java and wonder why they don't offer chocolate favour.

CNET News wrote about BLU and about new social feature in May:
Dr. Alan Blum, director of the University of Alabama Center for the Study of Tobacco and Society, told CBS News the idea of a social network is "wonderful." Blum points to a 2008 New England Journal of Medicine study (PDF) that showed smokers who joined others in trying to stop smoking were more likely to succeed than smokers who tried kicking the habit on their own.

"But I really don't understand how this e-pack signal is going to do anything other than help you pick up girls."

WTF? Isn't it exactly what you expect from social feature: to locate people with something in common and social feature on in close proximity, meet and befriend them?

The blu Premium pack offers its own social feature, which can be turned on by pressing the button under the charging indicators. Simply press and the pack will vibrate once to let you know its monitoring your surroundings or vibrate twice to let you know it’s in chill mode. With the blu Premium pack, you'll always send the right signals. When another blu user is within 50 feet, the logo will light up and the pack will vibrate, giving you the perfect ice-breaking opportunity.


I use them for social smoking. LED light glows at the tip of e-sig while I'm relaxing in the bar or restaurant with dimmed lights. And I use ultra-lights 'cause I don't care much for nicotine. There is a nicotine-free option available too but for some reason I want it to be somewhat real.

Disposables also available now, haven't tried them.

Miraculous "port and pickles" diet

Just met a guy at New Year party.
Well, actually that was not my first encounter with him.
But Gosh has he changed!
His story is worth telling.
Three years ago he found himself abandoned by his wife, fat and depressed.
He had to enter the dating market yet again.
His age and income permitting to fulfil his aspirations in search of a beauty he was lacking the looks.


Depressed and frugal as he was he invented a steady routine for himself.
Every morning he was consuming two individual cans of Campbell's soup or one Campbell's soup can of family size for breakfast. Or taking in whatever canned soup was on sale that week.
He was skipping lunch and working out in the gym across the road instead.
After work he was stopping at his friend's house and spending the evening with the supper of pickles in brine, Taylor port wine and light porn.
Six months on this diet allowed him to loose 58 pounds, become attractive and energetic.
Now he is happily married with PhD wife and a little baby.
His weight is almost the same as right after these six months of dieting though now he is feasting on the meals cooked or reheated by his beautiful wife. 
His friend is spending his evenings at local chapter of AA but happiness is not for everyone.

At Walmart at 1.98$ per family size 26 oz. can

Store pricing may vary

You can get it at $10 for 1.5L

Happy and healthy year for everyone whatever you dating situation and dieting resolutions are.

Relax, rejuvenate: childfree hotels

Childfree hotels - Big Sur, South California:


Highway 1 through Big Sur designated American National Scenic Byway & California Scenic Highway, an honor reserved for highways that are so distinctive they are destinations unto themselves.
Big Sur, offering best lodging in Monterey County and the best lodging in California.
"Big Sur" is derived from the original Spanish-language "el sur grande", meaning "the big south", or from "el país grande del sur", "the big country of the south".

So, my friends decided to visit.
They are well off and looked for the best options as far as lodging is concerned.


Post Ranch Inn

Post Ranch Inn was created for adults to relax, rejuvenate and nurture relationships.
Therefore, our minimum age for guests is 18 years.

Ventana Inn and Spa

Ventana Inn & Spa is designed and is operated as a resort for adults.
Many guests come to Ventana expressly to take a break for a few days from their own children.
No one under the age of 18 is permitted to stay at Ventana Inn & Spa.

Choice No. One and choice No. Two hotels turned them down because of the kids they had in tow. So they are thinking about visiting Big Sur next time without kids. In order to relax, rejuvenate and nurture their relationship.

More on the subject:  
Childfree hotels
LGBT-Welcoming

Sex ed

Why I has such a hard time getting thru this NY Times article? Isn't sex an entertaining and engaging subject?

Teaching Good Sex By LAURIE ABRAHAM, November 16, 2011

This is how it ends
“If you’re gonna have pizza with someone else, what do you have to do?” he continued. “You gotta talk about what you want. Even if you’re going to have the same pizza you always have, you say, ‘We getting the usual?’ Just a check in. And square, round, thick, thin, stuffed crust, pepperoni, stromboli, pineapple — none of those are wrong; variety in the pizza model doesn’t come with judgment,” Vernacchio hurried on. “So ideally when the pizza arrives, it smells good, looks good, it’s mouthwatering. Wouldn’t it be great if we had that kind of anticipation before sexual activity, if it stimulated all our senses, not just our genitals but this whole-body experience.” By this time, he was really moving fast; he’d had to cram his pizza metaphor into the last five minutes. “And what’s the goal of eating pizza? To be full, to be satisfied. That might be different for different people; it might be different for you on different occasions. Nobody’s like ‘You failed, you didn’t eat the whole pizza.’

and this is how it starts
“Grand slam,” called out a boy (who’d later tell me with disarming matter-of-factness that “the one thing Mr. V. talked about that made me feel really good was that penis size doesn’t matter”).

“Now, ‘grand slam’ has a bunch of different meanings,” replied Vernacchio, who has a master’s degree in human sexuality. “Some people say it’s an orgy, some people say grand slam is a one-night stand. Other stuff?”

“Grass,” a girl, a cheerleader, offered.

“If there’s grass on the field, play ball, right, right,” Vernacchio agreed, “which is interesting in this rather hair-phobic society where a lot of people are shaving their pubic hair — ”

“You know there’s grass, and then it got mowed, a landing strip,” one boy deadpanned, instigating a round of laughter. While these kids will sit poker-faced as Vernacchio expounds on quite graphic matters, class discussions are a spirited call and response, punctuated with guffaws, jokey patter and whispered asides, which Vernacchio tolerates, to a point.

Vernacchio explained that sex as baseball implies that it’s a game; that one party is the aggressor (almost always the boy), while the other is defending herself; that there is a strict order of play, and you can’t stop until you finish. “If you’re playing baseball,” he elaborated, “you can’t just say, ‘I’m really happy at second base.’ ”

OMG